OPEN LETTER TO BEYONCE from a mom of a premature child

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(SingleBlackMom.wordpress.com) – As the world spun on its head with news that Beyonce had given birth to twins, one mom took out a pen and wrote an open letter that will make you rethink motherhood.

(Coming June 20, 2017 at 4 pm EST)

“Dear Beyonce,

Do you have a minute? Sit down. Let’s have a chat. I’m so happy that your twins are here, that they are home and that you’re a mom of three, your husband a father of four. Parenthood is the best, I know you agree.

That’s why I’m hoping that you’ll stand up, get the world in formation and do more for the children and families of NICU community. Let’s face it: The NICU is not a place where healthy children go. For some children, it’s the last “home” they will ever know. Many children die. Many children live there for months and months and months so much time goes by that volunteers have to hold the baby.

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Single Black Moms get a new spokeswoman

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(SingleBlackMom.wordpress.com) – When it comes to our children, Single Black Moms don’t take no mess so when the world saw Wanda Durant grab her son by the chin and pull him to her, they might not have been ready for what would come next but single Black moms everywhere understood.

Like a members of a tribe, we viewed that moment with a knowing pride, sense of redemption and renewed purpose. Every day we sing the blues – and relish in the joys – of being single Black mothers. We defy the stereotypes. We re-brand ourselves. We shutdown haters and build up our children.

Until Wanda Durant, we did that usually on a daily basis, often by ourselves on the most local of levels. But with the 2017 NBA Championship won by Mama Durant’s son, Kevin, single Black moms gained an international spokeswoman, a marketing ambassador and a sister in the struggle.

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KITCHEN IDEAS: Carmel pretzel poppers are a real treat

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(SingleBlackMom.wordpress.com) – Want to wow your family with the most delicious dessert treat but some of your family has food allergies? This treat is gluten-free and can be modified to be nut free as well.

While the recipe as shown requires coconut sprinkles, it can be substituted for other topics or done without any topping just chocolate. If you’re lucky enough to be able to feed everyone nuts, try adding almond shavings or almost dust (ground finely).

You can also skip the carmel and use peanut butter (as well as the melting process). Continue reading

HOLIDAY HELP for SINGLE MOMS

(www.SingleBlackMom.wordpress.com) – This holiday season, don’t be caught up in how much things cost. Here’s a chance to teach your children how to appreciate money, how to develop their own style and how to turn an ordinary thing into an exciting thing! Thrift store shopping. In this post, we’ll also show you how to get toys, coats and housing help for your children and your family if you’re in a financial bind.

How to Buy Awesome Clothing from the Thrift Store

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Sex and the Single Mom: How to get back into the dating game

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How to get back into the game.

1. Abolish Negative Dating Mindsets

Before you set out into the glorious world of dating and men, I help you face and work through the fears and negative mental scripts that you may not even know you have—but keep single moms stuck and single. With a few easy exercises, you can figure out where you are now, and unstuck yourself for good.

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MOVIE REVIEW: Black moms aint sh*t, according to “Moonlight” movie

single-black-moms-custody-moonlight-movie (SingleBlackMom.wordpress.com) – Because Black moms ain’t shit, according to the movie, “Moonlight,” White audiences, critics and the mainstream media are raving about this crackpot film. After all, they’ve been saying this for years so “it’s about time someone made a movie about it.” There is little redeeming value in the movie and the harm it does is significant.

Sex & the Single Mom: Learning to Love Again

learning-to-love-again(Single Mom Club: SingleBlackMom.wordpress.com) – Cupid has been tracking me on a GPS for years. Six and a half years to be exact, which is exactly how long I’ve been celibate. I managed to outsmart, outwit and outlast his clever antics until recently when his upgraded bow and arrow landed directly in my heart as if it had a homing device.

While he made a direct hit to my heart, Cupid missed my head so while my heart is leaning toward allowing myself to feel and experience the love and comfort of a man, my head ain’t going for it. It’s been a pretty serious fight going on internally for me since I met “Mr. No Backing Down.” Continue reading

FREE CLOTHING for single moms and families in need

black mom with childIt’s getting cold and you’re not getting any richer. If you’re in need of clothing for you or  your children, this thread will be helpful. We’ll be adding to the list by major city as we obtain the information starting with NYC.

New York City clothing closets and thrift stores.

The greater New York City area has dozens of clothing closets and thrift stores. Centers are located in all boroughs, including Queens, Brooklyn, and Manhattan. While some of the locations will provide free items, baby supplies, work attire, and more to low income, other centers will sell gently used items. In addition to providing clothing, some of the New York City centers will offer additional aid, such as food, shelter, or referrals to emergency assistance. If a location is not near you, or can’t meet your needs, then they can often provide referrals to other programs or local charities.

single moms school clothes at thrift storeMost of the centers rely heavily on donations from the community. Resources are always limited, and unfortunately not everyone will be able to receive free clothing or other support. Some of the items in highest demand tend to be winter coats for children, professional suits or dresses, shoes, and also assistance around the holidays. So those items will be distributed in short order. Some of the New York City thrift stores may also sell gently used furniture, cribs, or appliances. If your income is low enough, the clothing closet or thrift store may provide a voucher so you can receive the item for free. Continue reading

OUTRAGED NYC MOM TACKLES NFL: My child saved my life, but Super Bowl Bowl commercial makes me feel victimized all over again

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Outraged mom tackles #SuperBowl domestic violence adHELP ME PUBLISH OUR STORY: Please donate today: http://www.gofundme.com/JoseesMomstress and pregnancy domestic violence and pregantI enjoyed half of my pregnancy. To be able to say that after all that I went through is a true testament to God’s grace over my life. That’s why seeing the NFL’s #SuperBowl commercial made me feel victimized all over again.

I remember thinking: “How can this be happening?” as I was flying across the room while pregnant with my fiancé’s child. I remember thinking, “God, if you save my baby I promise I’ll leave him” as I crawled on my tummy through the hallway to another room, shut the door and called 9-1-1. I remember how fearful I was when the EMTs came to the apartment and asked how it happened. “I fell.” I said. It was true but I didn’t say I fell after being beaten by the man who promised to love me forever. When they put me in the ambulance and shut the door, the male EMT said, “Okay, lady. You’re safe now. We know exactly what’s going on so tell us, what really happened?”

New York City – where the NFL is based – is notorious for taking children from mothers of domestic violence for “Failure to Protect” the child from domestic violence. Yet, despite releasing a million dollar Super Bowl commercial, the NFL shows that is continuing to remain clueless on what it really takes for women like me to survive domestic violence. My child is lucky to be alive after our abuser punt kicked me in the stomach. My child was born premature with low birth weight as a result of the domestic violence and we have half a million dollars in medical bills to prove it.

Like nearly all domestic violence promotional ads or material, NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell’s publicity stunt in the form of a Super Bowl commercial offered absolutely no real help for victims. The commercial did not say the NFL is funding a national housing drive for women in cities where the league has teams. The commercial asked people to look for domestic violence, did not tell them what to do if they found it, tell the women where to go after they report it, offer financial or housing assistance if they left.

I am so sick and tired of people saying, “Just leave” to domestic violence victims without telling us where to go, how to get there and who will pay for it. The number one cause for homelessness for women and children in America is Domestic Violence. Last time I checked, the NFL wasn’t announcing an emergency fund for victims to get out, get a new place to live and to stay safe. One commercial cannot erase the years the NFL has hid cases for its players, coaches and owners. If the NFL donated the cost of one advertisement to an annual “Starting Over House” rental and eviction fund for NYC domestic violence victims, lives could be saved. Continue reading

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