HELP ME PUBLISH OUR STORY: Please donate today: http://www.gofundme.com/JoseesMomI enjoyed half of my pregnancy. To be able to say that after all that I went through is a true testament to God’s grace over my life. That’s why seeing the NFL’s #SuperBowl commercial made me feel victimized all over again.
I remember thinking: “How can this be happening?” as I was flying across the room while pregnant with my fiancé’s child. I remember thinking, “God, if you save my baby I promise I’ll leave him” as I crawled on my tummy through the hallway to another room, shut the door and called 9-1-1. I remember how fearful I was when the EMTs came to the apartment and asked how it happened. “I fell.” I said. It was true but I didn’t say I fell after being beaten by the man who promised to love me forever. When they put me in the ambulance and shut the door, the male EMT said, “Okay, lady. You’re safe now. We know exactly what’s going on so tell us, what really happened?”
New York City – where the NFL is based – is notorious for taking children from mothers of domestic violence for “Failure to Protect” the child from domestic violence. Yet, despite releasing a million dollar Super Bowl commercial, the NFL shows that is continuing to remain clueless on what it really takes for women like me to survive domestic violence. My child is lucky to be alive after our abuser punt kicked me in the stomach. My child was born premature with low birth weight as a result of the domestic violence and we have half a million dollars in medical bills to prove it.
Like nearly all domestic violence promotional ads or material, NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell’s publicity stunt in the form of a Super Bowl commercial offered absolutely no real help for victims. The commercial did not say the NFL is funding a national housing drive for women in cities where the league has teams. The commercial asked people to look for domestic violence, did not tell them what to do if they found it, tell the women where to go after they report it, offer financial or housing assistance if they left.
I am so sick and tired of people saying, “Just leave” to domestic violence victims without telling us where to go, how to get there and who will pay for it. The number one cause for homelessness for women and children in America is Domestic Violence. Last time I checked, the NFL wasn’t announcing an emergency fund for victims to get out, get a new place to live and to stay safe. One commercial cannot erase the years the NFL has hid cases for its players, coaches and owners. If the NFL donated the cost of one advertisement to an annual “Starting Over House” rental and eviction fund for NYC domestic violence victims, lives could be saved. Continue reading