(www.TheSingleMomClub.com) – “Daddy”, “Papi” or any other version of the word father is a tough topic around here. While many of us ended well with our chikdren’s father, others survived domestic violence, infidelity or became a single mom after the father died. No matter how you became a member of the club, it’s likely your kids haven’t let the daddy topic drop.
So, how do you handle it? TheSingleMomClub.com is excited to introduce the new section, “DADS” to address some of the positive – or negative – aspects of being a single parent. To see past articles on the topic, search “Fathers” on this website or use this link:
SINGLE DAD STRESSED OUT OVER DAUGHTER’S OBSESSION WITH HAVING A MOTHER
He writes, “I hate to use the term “acting out,” so I’ll say that my 3-year-old daughter is expressing a brand-new feeling that she doesn’t know how to articulate: heartbreak. And maybe even desperation. It’s understandable. She wants a mother.”
His name is Chad and he is a single father of a little girl named Cydney. He and his fiance began to make plans for their budding family and left Atlanta to move to New York during the pregnancy so that all of our family could be involved. Their daughter Cydney Moriah was born February 14, 2011. 4lbs, 9 oz, 19 inches long. After she was born, his fiancé had what was thought to be preeclampsia. After nine days of testing, biopsies, and x-rays, she was diagnosed with esophageal cancer that had already progressed to the fourth stage. After nine months of putting up a fight, moving from New York City to Buffalo to Hampton, VA, Chad’s fiancé lost her fight and passed away December 9, 2011 at 25 years old; one day after their five year anniversary.
As opposed to the normal just adjusting to life after a devastating loss, Chad had to endure months of custody hearings in the states of New York and Virginia, having to prove he was Cydney’s father, and not seeing his daughter for five months because his fiancé’s parents were trying to take custody of the baby. Since April 3, 2012, my daughter has been back with Chad about which he says, “Honestly, it’s been nothing more than wonderful.”
After months of deliberating and figuring things out I felt that I should share my experiences, adventures (and misadventures), and tips for other single fathers and parents in general out there. Parenting is not easy and it’s REALLY not easy being a single parent. Chad and Cydney’s journey is chronicled on his blog. Read more of story by clicking his photo.
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