SINGLE MOMS get a boost from unlikely sources

rent help for single mom - housing help for single mothers (www.TheSingleMomClub.com) – Whether you are a single mother attending college for the first time or returning to school, there are many scholarships and grants aimed at helping you succeed.

As a single mother, your best approach is to capture as much general aid as you can. A possible source of funding can come from scholarships created specifically for women and single mothers. When you’re looking for these scholarships, consider your major or future profession. Are you interested in the STEMs (science, technology, engineering, and math)? Women are often underrepresented in these areas, so there are a number of awards from national industry groups. Were you a Girl Scout? They offer scholarships to former members who are going into STEM fields.

Examples of scholarships for women and single mothers

Educational specialties like science, technology, engineering, and math offer great opportunities for women seeking generous scholarships and well-paying careers.

 

With many colleges having classes available online, from home or remotely, the time to earn a degree has never been better.

Here are just a few:

  • The Selected Professions Fellowships offers awards between $5,000 and $20,000 for women entering graduate or post-graduate degree programs in STEM fields.
  • The Association for Women in Mathematics offers the Alice T. Schafer Mathematics Prize to undergraduate women studying the field of mathematics.
  • The Patsy Takemoto Mink Education Foundation offers awards to low-income mothers in order to assist with living or direct school expenses.
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ABANDONED: My child’s best friend broke up with her

childhood abandonment - child's best friend stopped talking to her(www.TheSingleMomClub.com) – As domestic violence survivors who were forced to abruptly leave the only home we had ever known and all the friends we’d collected along the way, it’s safe to say that my child and I have been through a lot. When you’re escaping domestic violence and trying to stay safe, you have to employ some safety rules that most people never think about. While people say they understand, they don’t. It’s especially hard for kids who may have trouble knowing who to trust.

That’s why I’ve kept a very short list of people who I allow around my child. About a year ago, we met a mother and her child at a community event. Without expecting to, we really took to them and vice versa. I tried to keep things light because I felt that my child’s desire to belong sometimes means she gets attached. From time-to-time, we’d hang out with them at the park or some other kid related event. I especially liked that the mother and I shared a similar parenting style, but when I found out that she was a social worker I decided I didn’t want to run the risk of having her too close to us.

In our experience, social workers treat domestic violence victims like projects that they need to fix. They usually cause more trouble for us and it’s just not worth the risk because I’d decided we’d have to stay where we were for a while and I didn’t want to be forced to move. But, this mother seemed different. She was one of the few really good social workers I’d ever met. Still, domestic violence survivors have to put up a safety wall. Sometimes, I think I’ve built the wall too high but for the sake of my child, I try to stay the course.  After all, I’ve been working with domestic violence advocates to help craft the safety plan and I didn’t want to compromise it.

My child and the other little girl bond immediately. It was intense. They literally had a soulful bond that I could easily see continuing their whole life. Little by little, the little girl and her mom because a bigger part of our lives. I know the mom was sensing my nervousness so eventually I was forced to tell her about our situation. She seemed understanding. Our friend grew just like our children’s but the kids were definitely the glue.

Due to the circumstances surrounding the domestic violence, I’m forced to go back and forth to fight my abuser in court. It costs hundreds of dollars heading toward $1,000 to go back and forth. I’m alway strapped for cash. It’s a long, long way away and each time I have to go back I’m forced to relive the nightmare. It’s beyond upsetting and disrupting but it’s a necessary evil to rid our lives of it for good. I cannot afford a car and used to ride a bike back and forth to the grocery store while my child was in school. when the bike was gone, I was forced to walk but it didn’t bother me at all. I would do anything for my child. On weekends when school was out, I couldn’t do walk anywhere so we’d have to find things to do at or near our home. There’s a community pool at our home so we found a lot of things to do. We built a kind of oasis for ourselves. We always had a good time but I could sense my child’s desire for a friend.

I usually never discuss the domestic violence with anyone but my child’s godparent but I slipped up and talked about it with my child’s friend’s mom. She seemed ok with it at first but I think it just became a burden. I started feeling judged and tried to share less. It was too late. I’d opened the door and there was no going back. She asked more and more questions. I felt uncomfortable at times because I didn’t think she understood that some of the things I left out were on purpose to protect us or to abide by our safety plan. I knew I needed to share to keep the friends alive but I thought at times she asked too much. I never asked a lot of questions about her situation. I try to give moms space to share when they feel it’s appropriate but she’s a social worker. She meant it in a positive way.

Abruptly, after a year of friendship, the mother stopped returning my phone calls and ignored my child’s request for play dates. There was no goodbye. There was no explanation. There was no consideration to how my child would cope. My child kept asking about her friend. It was devastating to see my child cry for a friend I knew she’d never see again.  While I sincerely miss my friend, the heartbreak my child is experiencing is epic. I have to get my child professional help to cope with the loss. I’d definitely fearful to allow anyone else to get that close to my child.

As a single mother with an order of protection against our abuser, I didn’t have to worry about my child getting disappointed when daddy didn’t show up or stood her up for a visit. It never occurred to me that my child would feel the abandonment at such a young age by another child. I’m sure that the other child is also feeling the loss. We spend so much time together. I even moved our home to be closer to them. My child could walk to their home with her eyes closed and asks about her friend often.

I have not found the words to tell my child what happened. A part of me was holding out hope that their relationship – even if not the mommy friendship – could be restored. I have finally accepted the abandonment and am working on a strategy to prepare my child for the devastation.

PRODUCT REVIEW: Lego’s hot new “Elves” collections has everyone talking

Lego Elves toy review (www.TheSingleMomClub.com) – As a credentialed toy blogger, it is always nice to get information about new toys. At a recent toy show, everyone was buzzing about Lego’s new Elves collection.

Off the top, it’s important to point out that Lego has been doing a good job of making their toys appeal to boys and girls so in keeping with that spirit, the new Lego Elves are worth talking about.

Lego Elves play themes were introduced in March of 2015. The theme revolves around four elves who can control elemental powers.

Lego Elves unboxed

 

The play themes allow users to join Emily Jones on her unexpected journey through a mysterious portal full of ELVES in her grandmother’s garden, to the magical world of the Elves, and help her on her quest to get home again. Emily will need the help of her four Elvish friends to find the four keys to open the portal that will take her back home.

Lego Elves toynreview unboxinf

 

The new Lego Elves retail for about $30 per set and have eight play themes.

Here is the full list of Elves sets:

41071 Aira’s Creative Workshop
41072 Naida’s Spa Secret
41073 Naida’s Epic Adventure Ship
41074 Azari and the Magical Bakery
41075 The Elves’ Treetop Hideaway
41076 Farran and the Crystal Hollow
41077 Aira’s Pegasus Sleigh
41078 Skyra’s Mysterious Sky Castle

FREEBIES: March is a great time to get some awesome freebies

National Pancake Day 2015(www.TheSingleMomClub.com) – Everyone loves a freebie, but no one loves a freebie more than single moms. Here’s a list of this month’s top freebies. Enjoy!

March 3rd get a FREE stack of pancakes from 7a.m. until 10p.m. at IHOP. Guests are encouraged to donate to Children’s Miracle Network which directly benefits from the National Pancake Day promotion.

FREE ICE CREAM CONE

FREE ice cream cone day

March 16 is the 75th Anniversary of Dairy Queen! Celebrate with a free ice cream cone.

FREE OLIVE GARDEN ENTREE

BUY ONE, TAKE ONE at Olive Garden is back

Olive Garden is always a favorite so their Buy One, Take One promotion is a no brainer. For a limited time.

FREE REESE’S CANDY

Reeses peanut butter cups

Can you say YUM? Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups are a serious weakness for my little one. It’s outrageous how many people love these tasty treats so the opportunity to get an entire bag for free is almost too much to stand. The process is super easy and actually quite fun. Head over to their Facebook page and snag your bag right now. Click the photo to get this awesome offer!

FREE TWININGS TEA SAMPLER PAK

Free twinings tea sampler pak

I truly appreciated getting to choose from Twinings Tea flavor selections. It gave a chance to read all the options something I don’t really do when buying tea. Plus, it comes in the mail so it is a double bonus!

FREE COTTONELLE SAMPLER

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Dare a Friend” and log in or create an account on the Cottonelle website to request a FREE Cottonelle Sample Pack! This includes a free sample of Cottonelle with CleanRipple texture products. Hurry, limited samples are available, so don’t wait to request yours.

Free tampons FREE TAMPONS
Get free tampon sampler pack delivered to your house. The pack includes a variety of products to help you get the most protection you need

WANT MORE FREEBIES? Check out TheSingleMomClub.com’s FREEBIES section, especially the kids eat free menu.

Don’t forget to spend some time in Kids Zone as well.