2014: TheSingleMomClub.com’s outstanding Year in Review

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YheSingleMomClub.comThanks to our amazing club members, TheSingleMomClub.com was visited over 6,000 times this year. We experienced so many firsts and big moments so to celebrate we prepared a 2014 annual report for you to see our progress! More than 320 photos were uploaded and over 90 new posts were created bringing the total number of posts to 136.  The most popular features were “Cooking Class for Single Moms” followed by “Freebies.”

Here’s an excerpt from TheSingleMomClub.com’s 2014 Annual Report:

A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. This blog was uniquely viewed by about 4,700 moms in 2014. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take about 4 trips to carry that many people.

In 2014, TheSingleMomClub.com went to the New York City red carpet premiere of Spiderman meeting cast members including Jamie Foxx and Spiderman himself. In June, TheSingleMomClub.com went to Hollywood for the BET Experience at L.A. Live where we interviewed Grammy award winning singer, Ne-Yo and others. We launched Single Mom Magazine and our articles were syndicated in media outlets like PoliteonSociety.com.


TheSingleMomClub.com was invited to several private movie premieres and screenings like “Annie” and spent a very sweet day with Jennifer Garner where we screened her new family movie, “Very Terrible Bad Day.” We reviewed products, helped our club members save big bucks by finding fashion treasured at their local thrift stores and scoring lots of free or deeply discounted products with our “Freebies” section.

Several brands reached out to TheSingleMomClub.com for our assistance connecting bloggers to brands. In that light, TheSingleMomClub was tapped to work with brands like Chevy, Betty Crocker, Land’s End and Norwegian Cruise Lines.

While many of our posts were very well received, TheSingleMomClub.com’s Top 5 blog posts:

1: Housing help for single moms

2: Oprah launches Life Class for single moms

3: Recipe: Mary McLeod Bethune’s Sweet Potato Pie

4: Cooking Class: Meatless quesadillas

5: Food Truck Day: Find the best food





SEX and the SINGLE MOM: Taboo or turn up?

Sex and single moms(www.TheSingleMomClub.com) – As a satisfied celibate mommy, I have no desire to break out my freakum dress or worry about how to get a man to go home after I put it on him. Sorry, but some people are born with gifts. Putting a man to sleep afterwards is my specialty but cupid better point his arrow somewhere else.

So when one of my favorite mom bloggers Natasha decided to post about sex and single moms I became curious to find out exactly how many of the moms in TheSingleMomClub are breaking backs at night.

Here’s an except from her blog:

“Sex is taboo…especially when it comes to the single mom. If she’s having sex, it’s expected that she beware so that she doesn’t end up pregnant again and a single mom to several children. If she’s not having sex, then she’s a complete prude. Which one is it? Am I promiscuous or am I a prude? The ongoing judgment sometimes drives me nutty. At some point in my life, although it seems like ages ago, I had a pretty active sex life. That’s how my son was born, right??!! But in recent years, it has been practically nonexistent.

“For the past 2 years, I had no relationship – sexual or otherwise – with anyone. I focused on enjoying the early years of parenthood, building my career and education, and just living. But obviously that was too crazy for some people to believe because I am constantly questioned as to when I would start a relationship or at least go out and have some incredible sex with someone. It was obvious (maybe only to them) that I needed “some” in my life to take the edge off. I admit, I was on edge but I seriously doubt that having sex was going to help it – I just needed to relax. Who am I kidding, right? Yes, I needed to have sex. But it was a bit overwhelming thinking about having sex with someone.

image“I tried the dating thing for a little bit, hoping that I start a new relationship. Maybe just being a relationship would help me to relax a little. But unfortunately, I wasn’t ready to start dating, and it crashed and burned at every turn. I continuously hurt people that were obviously into me but that I had no interest in starting a relationship. At first, I thought it was them, but really and truly – I wasn’t ready. And I started to feel horrible. I was dating for a few months when I just decided to put it on the back burner for a little while.”

As Natasha brought up, what do you do when you’re a single mom, horny, and not ready for a relationship? Find out how she’s handling the situation by reading the rest of Natasha’s column here. http://epicmommyadventures.com/2014/10/sex-and-the-single-mom/

1) Be your own lifesaver. No one wants to be the hero all the time. Try to take care of yourself and leave just enough “saving” for the man in your life to feel powerful and protecting.

2) Feed him. Blah. Blah. Blah. Eat this. Works every time.

3) Let him lead. This tip right here is straight selfish but makes men feel manly. Let him feel like you cannot resist him and are “giving in” even if you already had champange and strawberries by the bed. You looked too good for him to notice anyway. But the truth is, you’re exhausted so laying on your back is exactly what the doctored ordered.  If you fall asleep, tell him you passed out from passion overload.

4) Give up the remote. When he visits, let him control the T.V., unless its Thursday night and Scandal is on. In that case, what is he doing there anyway?

5) Be you only not really. It’s okay to multi-task and handle your mommy business but from time-to-time, you need to let go and let someone take care of you.

DO IT YOURSELF: How to make a $10 headboard and a twin size bed

how to make a twin bed(www.TheSingleMomClub.com) – Let’s face it. Furniture is expensive! And on a single mom budget, it’s time to think outside of the IKEA box!

Single Moms have to watch the budget like a hawk but that doesn’t mean single moms have to compromise quality, style or fun in the process. Check out this $10 very easy headboard project that completely transforms this room. For a few bucks more, you can paint the walls with an accent color to give the room a little “pop.” Many supply stores have left over paint or discounted paint that they may be able to color to your desire.

Here are two quick and easy ways to make a headboard for yourself (or your tween or teen) and a twin bed for your child. The best part is you get to hit something without hitting a person and both projects will cost less than $50 total! Every mom should make a piece of furniture at least once in their life. If you’re not a hammer slinging diva, consider making a quick coffee table which only needs a rectangular piece of wood and four legs! Even nail salon Barbie could make that!

Room MAKEOVER for Single Moms

Bill of materials
The bill of materials below assumes all the lumber is good. You should buy extra lumber to be able to leave out pieces with defects in them. In general, its best to buy wider pieces of lumber and rip them into narrower pieces, such as buying 2×6 and ripping the 2×3’s out of them. You get much better lumber that way. It may be better to buy five 2x10x8′ instead of the parts marked with an asterisk, and cut everything from those.

Part       Quantity  Used for
2×8 x 8′ 3 * Side rails, also bottom horizontal for headboard and footboard.
2×3 x 8′ 3 * For making the posts
2×10 x 8′ 3 * For headboard top horizontal, and footboard top horizontal
2×2 x 8′ 2 Supports for slats on side rails
1×4 x 8” 6 For slats
3/4″ dowel 6′ For cutting dowels from. Buy enough lengths to get 6′
2.5″ #10 wood screw 24 For mounting side rails
2.5″ #10 wood screw 10 For screwing slat supports onto side rails
Wood glue 100ml At least 100 ml of wood glue. Continue reading

SECURITY ALERT: 5 things you need to do NOW to protect your kids online

internet security and the single mom(www.TheSingleMomClub.com) – Guess what? You’ve just added a new job title to your already overburdened mommy life: Internet Security Guru. If you have a child online – even if your child just plays downloaded apps and games – you’re going to want to read this post from start to finish.

A sinister world of criminals is trying to steal your family’s valuable information so here are five products that are claimed to let you surf the Internet anonymously, encrypt your chats and emails and come up with Ironclad passwords.

shazzle mail -  internet security and the single momSHAZZLE MAIL: The Price: Free
The Claim: Web-based email services like Gmail, Yahoo and AOL use a remote server as a go-between for you and your contacts. So everything you send and receive is stored on your email provider’s computers. ShazzleMail require you to use a special email address and software but skips the server, routing mail directly to the recipient. You can send email to someone NOT signed up with ShazzleMail. They receive a link that opens a secure Web page and retrieves email directly from your device. Downsides: You will need either an Android or iOS device to use ShazzleMail.

chatsecure -  internet security and the single mom CHAT SECURE: The Price: Free
The Claim: ChatSecure’s maker says the app will keep your mobile communications private by scrambling them on your device once you hit send, then putting them back together on the other end so your pals can read them. You can attach photos to messages, take pics within the app and chat in groups or with ChatVoice that let’s your record an audio message securely.


hotspotshield -  internet security and the single momHOTSPOT SHIELD: The Price: Free but Hotspot Shield Elite is $30 a year.
The Claim: Hotspot Shield is a virtual private network (VPN), which logs your PC or mobile device in to a remote server and let’s you surf the Web from there without being eavesdropped on or tracked.

lastpass - internet security and the single momLAST PASS: Price: Online version is free but the mobile version (iPads, tablets, etc.) is $12 a year.
The Claim: The company says that this is the “last password you have to remember” and you can get started by downloading a version that’s compatible with your browser. After that you come up with a master password and browse sites and services you use and let LastPass create secure passwords as you go. It can also fill out forms for your and use other types of authentication such as fingerprint readers – although TheSingleMomClub.com is not yet sold on fingerprint readers.
safeplugSAFE PLUG: The Price: $49
The Claim: Everytime you go online, you’re sharing your Internet address with data brokers, corporations, and others. You’re also exposed to hackers and cybercriminals. SafePlug is a piece of home-network hardware that keeps your Internet traffic anonymous by bouncing your comunications among a series of random servers around the world – using a clandestine network called Tor. Online downside: Set up is not as easy it could have been but it works pretty well.

Source: Consumer Reports


CHRISTMAS and the SINGLE MOM: 5 Ways to give – and receive – help

Single mom holiday help(www.TheSingleMomClub.com) – Few times make a mom burst out in tears like Christmas. Seeing your child hungry or going without is hard any time of the year, but its almost unbearable at Christmastime.

For many single moms, the choice to pay rent or have Christmas is a no brainer but since far too many single mom face eviction during the holiday season the choices can be even harder.

For many single moms, Christmas is too hard to pull off. There’s the expensive tree and decorations, the big dinner and of course clothes and gifts. It’s the toughest time. Add to that the stress of dad passing away, leaving or being gone due to domestic violence, the recipe for a tough day is there.

If you’re able to help a single mom survive the holidays, here are 5 ways you can help.

1) Buy a $25 giftcard to the local grocery store or toy store and put it in a card. Drop it off to the family alon with a toy for the kids. You can also buy food and bring it by the home. Stores like Dollar Tree also sell food. You can volunteer to drive the mom to get help from pantries, sign up for SNAP or to charities to pick up clothing or food.

2) Invite the single mom and kids to Christmas Dinner

3) Play Santa: Buy a bag of gifts and drop them off to the family on Christmas Eve. It will teach the children the true meaning of the holidays to witness the spirit of giving.

4) Drop off a donation to the family’s apartment complex to pay all or part of the rent. The odds are, the mom is behind on bills so this will be the greatest gift ever. You can even be anonymous!

5) Stay in touch! Many moms feel isolated during the holidays and having friends and family stay in contact can mean a lot.

Shop with a cop - single mom christmas helpWith just a few days until Christmas, the stress is nearly unbearable. If you’re trying to avoid eviction, struggling to buy groceries or gifts, here are some ways to get help!

1) Call the local children’s musuem, local kids companies and department stores to see if they are doing anything for kids. Sign up for holiday help from charities like Salvation Army, St. Vincent de Paul and Catholic Charities for assistance with rent, food, toys and clothing.

2) Shop With A Cop: Write to the police or fire departments who have programs to help needy families.

3) Love to Know: There are also websites where help can be made available. http://charity.lovetoknow.com/Sign_a_Family_Up_for_Toys_for_Tots

4) The Media: Call your local newspaper, radio stationa, magazines and TV stations to ask for help. More help is available han you know.

5) Call toy companies dorectly. Many toy companies have programs available or can direct you to places that can help. Grocery stores also have the same kind of help available.

RECIPE: Butter Pecan Cake


(www.TheSingleMomClub.com) – If you like the rich and savory taste of butter pecan ice cream, this cake is for you!


2-2/3 cups chopped pecans
1-1/4 cups butter, softened, divided
2 cups sugar
4 eggs
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
3 cups all-purpose flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 cup milk

1 cup butter, softened
8 to 8-1/2 cups confectioners’ sugar
1 can (5 ounces) evaporated milk
2 teaspoons vanilla extract

Place pecans and 1/4 cup butter in a baking pan. Bake at 350° for 20-25 minutes or until toasted, stirring frequently; set aside.
In a large bowl, cream sugar and remaining butter until light and fluffy. Add eggs, one at a time, beating well after each addition. Stir in vanilla. Combine the flour, baking powder and salt; add to the creamed mixture alternately with milk, beating well after each addition. Stir in 1-1/3 cups of toasted pecans.
Pour into three greased and floured 9-in. round baking pans. Bake at 350° for 25-30 minutes or until a toothpick inserted near the center comes out clean. Cool for 10 minutes before removing from pans to wire racks to cool completely.
For frosting, cream butter and confectioners’ sugar in a large bowl. Add milk and vanilla; beat until smooth. Stir in remaining toasted pecans. Spread frosting between layers and over top and sides of cake. Yield: 12-16 servings